Parenting Plan Tune-Ups

As a family mediator, one of the most common misconceptions I hear is that once you create a parenting plan, you’re stuck with it until your child turns 18. That simply isn’t true—and it’s not realistic either.

Just as children grow and change, so do their needs. What works for a five-year-old often doesn’t make sense for a pre-teen. Co-parenting arrangements should evolve to reflect that reality.

I often recommend that parents approach their parenting plan as a starting point, not a final destination. Try out a time-sharing schedule for six months to a year. During that time, take notes on what’s working well and where there are challenges. Once you’ve had some real-world experience, return to mediation if you'd like to explore adjustments.

In fact, many families benefit from scheduling annual mediation check-ins—think of it as a co-parenting tune-up. These sessions provide a structured opportunity to assess what’s working, discuss changes in your child’s life, and make thoughtful updates to your plan.

Flexibility and communication are key to long-term co-parenting success. Mediation can help you stay on track—no matter what stage of parenting you're in.